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DROPPING THE STRUGGLE

Seven Ways to Love the Life You Have

Is it possible to fully accept, even love, the life you have? Is it possible to drop the struggle to make yourself and your life different? Acclaimed teacher and bestselling author Roger Housden says yes in this profound alternative to nonstop striving and self-criticism. Whether about our relationships, careers, or spirituality, many of us judge ourselves as not measuring up. But fulfillment comes when we stop struggling and learn to trust the wisdom of what life presents us with.

Housden wrote Dropping the Struggle as someone who, up until a few years ago, spent much of his time in a covert struggle with life. Despite his success, he often felt that something was missing. He struggled for years with an ongoing spiritual longing, with questions of meaning and purpose, with the search for love, with all the usual difficulties of being human, until he finally realized — though not with his thinking mind — that the only thing life was asking of him was to rest in a deeper knowing that was always there, usually silently, behind the arguments and strategies that would so commonly occupy his conscious self.

“Struggle will never get us the things we want most,” Housden writes, “love; meaning; presence; freedom from anxiety over the past and future; contentment with ourselves exactly as we are, imperfections and all; the acceptance of our mortality — because these things lie outside the ego’s domain. For these, we need another way. That way begins and ends in surrender, in letting go of our resistance to life as it presents itself.”

Roger Housden talks about DROPPING THE STRUGGLE

Endorsements

“An inspiring, life-changing book that challenges us to open our arms to the life we have rather than wishing we had something else.”
— Marci Shimoff, author of Happy for No Reason

“With luminous clarity, radical authenticity, and tender appreciation of the human predicament, Dropping the Struggle is more than a teaching and bigger than a book: it is an invitation to transform.”
— Mirabai Starr, translator of Dark Night of the Soul and author of Caravan of No Despair

“This book came to me just when I needed it, helping me to loosen my tight fist on how I want things to be and take another step toward acceptance.”
— Ellen Bass, author of Like a Beggar and coauthor of The Courage to Heal

“Gently and wisely, Roger Housden points to the timeless knowing within us, which dissolves the need to struggle with life, with others, and with ourselves.”
— Roger Walsh, MD, PhD, author of Essential Spirituality

“A book of confessions, advice, and easy-to-digest wisdom on how to lean into surrender and beingness in spite of our Western hardwiring of constant doingness.”
Arielle Ford, author of Turn Your Mate into Your Soulmate

Dropping the Struggle is a wise, compassionate, fierce gift and gentle guide for living fully with more ease. Blending poetry, storytelling, and science, it leads the way toward a more open heart and mind.”
— Marc Lesser, author of Less and Know Yourself, Forget Yourself