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Wednesday, December 02, 2015
WHAT IF LOVE DIDN’T HAVE TO BE SO HARD? by guest blogger SARK, coauthor of SUCCULENT WILD LOVE
 

I met my fiancé and coauthor, Dr. John Waddell, on a cruise. He had no idea who SARK was or that I had sold millions of books around the world. He told me that he had been deeply in love once before and the honeymoon had never ended. His wife had passed away. And then he told me that he was qualified to adore me. And I thought to myself, “I’m going to marry this man!” A month later, he moved in, and we got engaged less than three years after that.

Love Is Really Hard
One of the most wonderful experiences we have in our lives is loving another human being. Not the storybook kind of love where he always puts the toilet seat down and you never fight, but the beautiful love where you share a soul connection that lets you grow and truly expand as human beings. 

I wanted that for a really long time, but like a lot of us, I had pesky inner critics telling me that I wasn’t good enough. You know, the ones that tell you are too old, or too fat or too skinny, too tall or too short, or too whatever to have someone really love you. Mine seemed to keep whispering or shouting in my ear that I would probably never find love anyway, so I should probably just give up and stop trying — it just felt too hard.

What If It Doesn’t Have to Be So Hard?

When I met John, he told me he promised to see me as perfect, and take responsibility for any ways that he didn’t see me that way. I thought this was a really exciting idea, until I realized it meant I might have to see him as perfect too — I’d have to put away all my lists and stop trying to fix him! 

It turns out that I was making love really hard. I had been carrying around a whole lot of baggage about what it meant to be with someone and what a relationship was supposed to look like. Even in all my wildness I had a pretty tame idea of what a relationship was really supposed to be. 

From those pesky inner critics who had been setting me up to fail from relationship to relationship to the rules that I was carrying around (inherited from my parents and other well-meaning people), I really had been set up to be a relationship disaster. So I set out on a covert love operation to find the love that I was hoping was possible for me. From love mentors to support groups, I set out on an adventure that would eventually lead me to something more than I had dreamed possible. 

You Can Have More Love More Often
In my national bestseller Succulent Wild Woman, I shared the story of marrying myself because I knew and promised that I would never leave me. And I still stand by that work. But when I dove in deep with John in a relationship that married our souls, I knew that I could be wild and free while still being deeply connected to my beloved. 

We call the kind of relationship we have created Succulent Wild Love! We married not just our souls but also our work, so we had the basis for six powerful habits that we’ve developed to help people have more love more often. We’ve detailed how to bring these fully into your life in our new book, Succulent Wild Love: Six Powerful Habits for Feeling More Love More Often.

If you want to get started creating more love for yourself right now, here are four things you can start with this minute.

Realize no one can complete you. If you want a relationship that feeds your soul, inspires and delights you, and invites you to grow, you have to allow both of you to create something bigger than you can alone. 

Listen deeply to your Inner Wise Self. You know more than you think. In fact, you have a very wise internal guidance system that supports you to know what you really want. Sometimes we ignore this system to listen to our head — pick what looks good on paper, do what other people think we should. But you know what you really want. Follow that voice! 

Know that inside every conflict is a joyful solution. Every relationship will have fights and disagreements. That’s just part of being human. But when you understand there doesn’t have to be a winner and a loser, one who gets what they want and another who compromises, you can experience conflicts very differently, and they result in deeper connection and joyful solutions. 

See the perfection of your beloved. Sure, you’ll do things to annoy each other. Sure, you’ll drive each other crazy on occasion. But when you understand that just about everything that drives you crazy is coming out of your own fears, you can begin to see your partner as perfect just as they are. It’s not that you don’t have preferences — you do. But those preferences don’t need to result in your feeling and experiencing less love.

More Love Is Available for You
After over 25 years of teaching, there is one thing that I know for certain: There is more love available for every single person I have ever met than they realize. If you could begin to fathom all the love that this world holds for you, it would break your heart open with joy and delight.

So no matter where you have come from, no matter where you are going, no matter what you look like or who your friends are, I want you to remember that there is more love available to you right now. You are beautiful. You are worthy. And you are lovable.

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SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy) and Dr. John Waddell are the authors of Succulent Wild Love. SARK is a bestselling author and artist with over two million books sold. Dr. John Waddell has been helping individuals and couples lead happier lives for over 30 years through his clinical psychology practice and metaphysical teachings. Visit them online at PlanetSARK.com.
 
Based on the book Succulent Wild Love. Copyright © 2015 by SARK and Dr. John Waddell. 


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